Hindus celebrate numerous festivals throughout the year, every year. 330 million goddesses are worshiped, knowingly or unknowingly. But it is ironic that a woman is raped every 15mins, every day. The reports are unsettling. These staggering rape statistics are something to be ashamed of. Gender bias still has it’s roots in our society, it never surfaces but it reeks the whole community. Male dominance is still considered okay in many households. This form of thinking has to change.
We live in a country where even uttering the words “rape” or “molestation” is taboo. If rape is a crime, then it’s a sin not to talk about it.
It is a topic of a conversation that never happened.
Doing wrong is a sin, but knowingly letting wrong happen is unforgivable. To do right, one needs to know what’s wrong. It’s a frame of reference that lays down essential restrictions. In this case, it more relevantly applies to men. Boys, at a tender age itself, need to be groomed to become gentlemen and not just ‘men’.
The streets are filled with brutes who pass lewd comments on women passing them by. Sexist slurs and vulgar name-calling, for them, are a form of amusement. Makes them feel more powerful and manly.
What goes through a women’s mind when that happens is heart-breaking. She feels immensely embarrassed. Fear grips her heart and chills run down her spine. Her breathing becomes heavy, as if she’s been suddenly hit by claustrophobia. Her hands and feet start to go numb and indecisiveness kicks in. The incident traumatizes her for a long time, giving her nightmares. It scars her for the rest of her life.
Directly or indirectly everyone is responsible. Kids must be taught to value men and women equally. A good parent has to inculcate in the child, feelings of respect towards women. It all starts at the family level.
It’s high time that one’s opinions and views on this topic are debated openly. When the crime takes place and the victim is so publicly shamed and outcast by this hypocritic society, it is only fair that it’s solution be discussed openly too.
One should learn to be more open minded. Our conscience must be right and refined. A community, as a whole, has to make sure that it is safe for women.
Most importantly, women must create themselves opportunities to voice their own opinions. A strong platform that gives them the chance to emotionally connect to their male counterparts. To explain their plight better and expose the evils of harassment.
Women must grow to be independent. They are of equal, or even more, caliber. Intolerable behavior must be publicly shunned. Friends and family must correct each other. An issue left unattended is something that keeps magnifying. And issues resolve by talking.
Disdainful behavior cannot be overlooked. It is in no way ‘fun’, or ‘just a harmless tease’. Feelings of lust and love have clouded the judgment of molesters. They live in a dreamy world that’s far from reality.
Lack of human touch and proper social interaction can actively develop such feelings. Wrong peer groups or improper guidance also have the same effect. These emotions build up subconsciously and poison the mind. Modern day’s mechanical lifestyle can further suppress these emotions which one day boil up and vent out as frustration, resulting in a crime.
It is thus of grave importance, that media, which this generation is so hooked on, portrays women as strong personalities and not as easy targets. Which would in fact be true. More focus must be laid on quality of character and not on aesthetics.
Considering the present situation, women need support. The day it’s proved otherwise, is most awaited for.